Hey hockey‑parents, this week let’s talk about: “The Ever‑Shrinking Grit Score.” I promise it’s relevant to your rink‑runs, drive times, and weekend tournament wars. Let’s lace up. We used to talk about grit like it was baked into the game, into life. You earned it through sweat, setbacks, and showing up when nobody else wanted to. Why does it feel like grit, the old-school, get-back-up-and-keep-pushing kind, is slowly disappearing? We’re not imagining it. It’s happening. It’s not just slipping, it’s shrinking, and fast.

Society and the Eroding Grit

We dug into the numbers, and they’re pretty telling. As tech innovation has surged, our “work ethic” has dipped. As a society, we’re working less, scrolling more, and letting screens do the heavy lifting. The rise of convenience has quietly replaced the grind.  To quantify this, let’s consider the following:
Chart showing the Grit Kore Grit Score trend over time as work ethic indicators have declined
Source GritKore Grit Score
  Since the 1950s, this score has been declining steadily. After 2000? It tanks. More screens, more comfort, fewer challenges. And here’s the kicker, As our Grit Score drops, anxiety rises.   
Chart showing the US Grit Score data trend
US Grit Score
 

Tech Made Life Easier — But Are We Getting Softer?

We’re not here to bash innovation. Tech has made life more efficient, no doubt. Tasks that once took hours now take seconds. But the real question is: what are we doing with all that extra time? Are we using it to build, create, and push ourselves further, or just to scroll, consume, and coast?  
Weekly Average Hours Worked vs. Average Hourly Media Consumption
GritKore LLC Source Carat fredstlouisfedorg
Too often, we choose comfort over challenge. We binge instead of build. And as parents/adults, we’re not immune. In the midst of it all, we somehow convince ourselves that a full schedule is a gritty schedule, that structure equals strength. So we load up our kids with before-school skill sessions to make the travel teams, and add enrichment programs and tutors to help them excel (or just keep up) academically. Our kids are busy, sure. But are they becoming gritty? Or just really good at following instructions?

Grit Can’t Be Scheduled

You can’t synthesize or replicate grit in a lab. Grit is raw,  and it can show up in anything. It’s the time they choose to work, not because they have to, but because they’re passionate, curious, and hungry to push limits and expand their own horizons.

The Edge We’re Missing

Here’s the irony: in a world built to make everything easier, grit has quietly become a rare competitive edge. The ability to delay gratification, to lean into boredom, to keep pursuing something long before the payoff, that’s no longer the norm. That’s the exception, but the truth is, we struggle with this as adults, too.  And maybe that’s the problem. We’ve engineered convenience so well that struggle now feels optional, even avoidable. But resilience doesn’t come from ease. It comes from the hard reps, the off days, the quiet moments when no one’s watching, and you still show up. As a society, we have to be cognizant of this decline in grit. More importantly, we have to be disciplined enough to reverse it, to earn grit daily by moving our bodies, challenging our minds, and engaging our imaginations. Grit isn’t just a personal trait; it’s a cultural muscle, and we all have a role in strengthening it. Because grit can’t be outsourced. It has to be modeled. It has to be lived. That’s the edge. That’s Grit Kore. Find. A. Way. Greg

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the “Grit Score” this post keeps referencing?

It’s Grit Kore’s own measure of old-school effort and follow-through, the willingness to keep working at something before it pays off. This post tracks how that quality has trended down since the 1950s, with a sharper drop after 2000.

Is technology really to blame for declining grit?

Not on its own. Convenience is the real culprit. Tech gave us back hours of time, and the question is whether we spend that time building skills or just consuming content; too often it’s the latter.

Can a packed schedule of lessons and tutors build grit for my kid?

Not by itself. A full calendar can look gritty without actually being gritty. Grit shows up when a kid chooses to push through something hard because they’re curious or driven, not because an adult scheduled it.

So how do you actually build grit in a kid?

Through hard reps, off days, and quiet moments with no one watching, the daily discipline of showing up. That’s the whole premise behind Grit Kore: earn it daily, in small, repeatable ways.

This article is part of our Mental Toughness & Grit: Complete Guide.

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